Are you feeling overwhelmed because circumstances seem bigger than you?
Does it make you angry when people make choices you disagree with you that affect your life?
Are you frustrated by a family member or colleague who just won’t stop doing something that is bad for them, and/or bad for you?
If so, consider these five ways you are giving your power away, and see if you might want to consider claiming your power back.
This view of life activates the reticular activating system in your brain to collect evidence for “why not.” You end up living your life in a way that produces reasons why not, instead of the outcomes you deeply desire.
The truth is, the world is always changing, always expanding, always generating new options and possibilities.
When you allow yourself to reinforce the idea that nothing ever works out for you and never will, you are telling your brain not to notice all the options that would work out or could work out in the future. This is a way of giving away your power that is really dangerous.
We all like to be right, and when you take a stand for things not turning out for you, being right means a life of frustration and defeat. Why would you choose that?
The great thing about life is that we can always change our minds. So try that now. Choose to be wrong about your pessimistic view. Choose to have faith that life is for you. Choose to believe that as you dedicate yourself to finding a way for things to work out for your good and the good of others around you in every situation, that good things will come to pass. Try it for ninety days and see what happens.
2. Pre-judging situations and people.
Another word for pre-judging is prejudice. When you allow yourself to move through life with unexamined pre-judgments about people, places, things, and circumstances you cut yourself off from what is actually happening in the now.
If you are busy having conversations in your mind that reinforce your own point of view you are closing yourself off from the very experiences that could inspire you to change your mind.
This is such a disempowering way of living. Wonderful people and exciting opportunities may be right in front of your face, but you are not able to identify them dues to pre-existing ideas about what is possible, or not possible for you.
How sad is this?
Have you ever known someone who was obviously their own worst enemy? This is what I am talking about. We all do it much of the time, but rarely do we allow ourselves to discover how wrong we were about these circumstances we pre-judge. This is a way of making sure that you live your life inside of a prison of your own making.
Take back the power to be in the present moment open and available to life, open and available to new experiences, open and available to opportunities. Watch miracles unfold in your life!
3. Perverting the opportunities.
Every obstacle and every challenge we face bear the seeds of opportunity within them.
Knowing this and trusting this will change your life.
If you insist on resisting challenges, allowing yourself to be defeated by challenges, and giving up, you are not likely to actualize your potential or realize your dreams.
If instead you embrace a “bring it on” attitude and confront the obstacles and challenges that show up in your life experience, you will find that you become an unstoppable force of nature.
This is possible when you own your power and allow the goodness of life to flow through you and out into the world. When you find the courage to say “yes” to life despite unwanted circumstances new experiences show up with unexpected benefits.
Procrastination is one of the main ways we pervert opportunities and allow ourselves to be defeated by obstacles.
We simply fail to get around to taking the obstacles on. “Later,” “maybe tomorrow,” and “I don’t feel like it right now” are all ways to avoid dealing with our challenges.
We all do it to some extent, but truly successful people who are making things happen don’t allow themselves to do it for long. Building accountability into your life is one way to make sure that procrastination doesn’t get the better of you for long.
When you take back your power and take action now you generate results. True, the result might be success, or it might be failure.
Either way, you are now closer to the result you are intending, whether that is by taking a successful step, or learning something from an unsuccessful step. Either way, you will feel a sense of empowerment for having taken action.
I’m using the word “pride” in this article to mean not asking for help when you need it.
The idea that anyone can go through life without getting assistance from anyone or anything is false.
No matter how far you go on your own, you will always go farther and most likely enjoy it more if you ask for help along the way.
Now it is true that there are ways of asking for help that don’t work. Whining, complaining, self-pity, and helplessness are not attractive energies.
Seeing oneself clearly, identifying strengths and offering to give in order to receive is a winning strategy most of the time. I’ve found that truly resourceful people are typically quite humble, and always acknowledge the support they have received from others along the way.
Have you noticed that our world works through relationships? It is true that many of the challenges we face involve other people but succeeding at something alone is far less satisfying than success shared in a team effort.
When you learn to communicate effectively and lead a group toward an intended result the sense of empowerment soars!
So turn away from pessimism, pre-judging, perverting, procrastinating and isolating yourself in pride. In so doing you will find your sense of yourself as a powerful creator expanding while you are realizing your dreams.