Rejection can be a weapon of mass destruction to your business. Photo by Micah Williams on Unsplash
Fear of Rejection Is A Weapon of Mass Destruction
Do you struggle with fear of rejection?
Do you spend time and energy
trying to please people, or gain approval?
Is it difficult to market your service or product
due to doubt or confusion
about how to move forward?
This kind of procrastination is often fear of rejection
masquerading as doubt or confusion.
These are entrepreneurial mindset issues.
They must be consciously addressed
by any entrepreneur who is struggling,
or any successful entrepreneur
who is looking to take their business to the next level.
And it is more than that.
The experience of rejection impacts all humans at one time or another in the course of living life.
How you deal with rejection is a critical factor in whether or not you are able to enjoy your life and experience it as a satisfying adventure,
or struggle with negative emotions and limiting beliefs.
“Lots of times, our main problem isn’t our problem. Our biggest problem is our perspective on our problem.” — Steven Furtick
What does it take to deal effectively with fear of rejection?
The key insight that will set you free
is that your experience of rejection
ALWAYS comes from within.
I know that is not easy to accept.
People treat us all kinds of ways.
Some people really like you.
Other people can’t stand you.
This is a fact.
But your experience of rejection ALWAYS and ONLY comes from your own thoughts.
So let’s be clear.
If you are a comedian
standing on a stage
telling jokes
and someone in the crowd
throws a rotten tomato at you,
you will only feel rejected
if you make the tomato’s impact on you mean,
“The tomato thrower must not like me,”
or
“The tomato thrower hates my jokes,”
or some similar thought.
If you choose to think,
“Wow, the tomato thrower is really listening to me!”
or
“The tomato thrower is kind enough to give me some tough love
about my material. I appreciate that so much!”
then you won’t feel rejection.
You will feel appreciation.
See what I mean?
You can choose to make empowered meaning out of every single one of your experiences.
So even if someone throws a rotten tomato at you,
you do not have to feel rejected.
Does it make sense now,
with this insight,
that you never have to experience rejection again?
And if you do experience it,
can you see how you can change your mind immediately,
and see the situation from a different perspective?
Can you see that when you own this power, fear of rejection will disappear from your experience sooner or later?
It will.
You can work on it by setting an intention
to notice when you are feeling rejected,
or lonely,
or rebuffed,
or inadequate.
These feelings are a clue that you are thinking something that is disempowering you.
Once you make this connection between your unwanted feelings
and your thoughts, you can make a new choice!
Otherwise,
if you are going to let your thoughts run wild
and send you into negative feelings
without any consequences
Your own thoughts become
weapons of mass destruction in your life.
As you accumulate life experiences
and/or business experiences,
if you don’t know how to make empowered meaning out of
Every.
Single.
Thing.
That.
Happens.
then your chances of success dwindle
as more and more disempowerment shows up.
Plus, most of us soak up a lot of disempowered meaning
as young children
watching disempowered parents navigating the world.
This is why you need to use your feelings
to point you into the areas where you need to do the work.
One other very important point is that
what you focus on expands.
So if you are consciously or unconsciously
trying to avoid rejection,
you are telling your brain to look for it,
so you are finding more of it, not less.
When you use feelings of rejection
to change your mind
you automatically give your brain
new instructions.
“Brain: look for inclusion,
look for acceptance,
look for opportunities to collaborate.”
Then more of those experiences
filter into your awareness.
As I like to say:
Master your thoughts. Master your world. Think only LOVE.
And while you are at it,
set an impossible goal.
Working toward an impossible goal
highlights the barriers in your way
so that you can change your thoughts about them.
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